Things have been quiet on the airwaves this week with the reflection of the generosity that was shown us in Christ. I felt emotional on Friday as I thought of the incredible journey that was taken for us. The faith displayed and the love that grew in all of us because of him. I hope you spent your week in a way that brought you joy. As I thought of the days before and after and the fear and sadness that was given to Jesus to suffer so horribly....he pursued like the King he is...so with this history behind us, and this glorious message of unselfish love I began to think of my life...and my hopes.
What part does the Lord play in a marriage, relationship, etc...
Well, from my humble opinion, I can truly say, that my next relationship, and I will have one, is going to be one where the teachings of the Lord are the foundation. I truly don't believe that he expects us to live by doctrine all the time, as much as the feeling he gave to our world. When we look at each other in this day and age, I feel there is such a pressure to perform. It doesn't matter if it is at work, or home, or even church, there is always an expectation that can crease the spirit of good intention and leave it with a place that makes us vulnerable and afraid. A lot of relationships are like that now. We are suppose to be the "best" at any and all we do, and there is absolutely no way that can happen. We can give our personal best, but to be the best, there is no such thing. That is why marriage is such an ultimate compliment and union that should be the strongest ever. Marriage provides someone who accepts, hopefully, and loves, hopefully, with unconditional support and trust. Just like God says to us that we have to have faith and believe, that is no different than marriage. The two are parallel. Both relationships take the time and energy of having a strong faith. God provides a foundation that allows us to fall, but remember that falling brings us to a stronger place as the practice of falling frees us to be safe with someone. That can only give us strength. When we fall, and a spouse is there to hold us up, help us up, and support us if our legs are weary, then we have the faith in each other that God wants us to have for him. It is all a teaching, learning, believing, experience. I know I may sound off my rocker, but when God talks of us in words that offend others when they read them, like "obey"....I do not believe that he meant for us to be slaves to each other in any form, or that he meant it in a fashion where women were less than man. The human race has taken the opportunity to once again decipher the words of scripture and put a negative turn on it. Obey means, to yourself, your heart, your soul, your spirit. Obey to me means, that we take our marriage and we obey the laws of trust, truth, and love. It wasn't meant to single out one person in a relationship to have supreme power or guidance over another. God would not of formed such a perfect and wonderful union had he expected that. But if we do not "Obey" such given boundaries then where will that lead us? I do not believe a marriage should be alive and well in a place where physical abuse, mental abuse, or spiritual abuse is present. It is most important that the feeling of peace surround the love that you represent. Peace is not necessarily perfect days, or perfect times where life is rosy with no miscommunication or strife....It is peace in knowing that when you have hit a rocky shore above all else, the marriage will be protected. Hopefully, the teachings of God and the abundance of feelings that he has instilled in us is not for not........I believe that he formed us to have a balance that gave us temptation, but the strength to make decision based on following what is right in our hearts.....We are such complex and deep creatures and each and every one of us is as deep and complex as Jesus. But was he really? He was humble, simple and believed the principals that we are to "love one another". He gave us the tools, but instead of building a firm foundation for our lives and marriage, we use the jackhammers and destroy what is the very key to what he wants for us. Peace, faith and for us to believe in each other.....That is not a bad thing. That is a good thing. Part of the position of church and the community of church is accountability......Men are accountable to other men and the fellowship can either make us stronger, or tear us down, but if a Christian man is there to support Christian men, they will call them on their actions and hopefully give them gentle guidance back to the real and their purpose in family and society. Women as well. Fellowship in church with women is a gathering of different needs too. The support of each other is an extension of self. Instead of the focus constantly on self, it MAKES you be available to others and accountable to the church which takes away from always thinking of self. It can happen......unfortunately. I am not perfect, but in my future husband's eyes I would love to be. ... and him to me. No we are not perfect, but together we are perfect. Not in every sense of the word, but in our relationship the combining of both our traits and spirits, we create an imperfect perfectly wonderful place, good, or bad at given times, challenging and free at others.....It all is part of the "big picture". People have not put that piece together yet. You know it really isn't that hard.....It really is easy......People, society have made it a race to the end. .... There is no race. We all need to get off the speedway and slow down and take a nice slow walk holding the hand of someone we love. Next time you see a couple, be that woman and child, or father and child, young and old, alike.......Look at the amazing connection of something as simple as holding a hand......"We are connected"....We have to be...He made us in his eyes.......
Happy Easter Sunday my friend. I can keep writing as I have tons of things I feel for the life and it isn't the standard view. No offense to anything I say is intended. I just think outside the box.......Hugs and love from Phoenix. (hope you weren't bored)!
